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Is this an inappropriate question?

Is this an appropriate question to ask just anyone...
Why don't you have kids? Got plans too? Going to have any more?

My honey Ted & I get this question a lot. We have a furbaby Huey (13 year old Shih Tzu) who is plenty kid for us. :)

A woman named Emily was tired of getting this question all the time. Her response via Facebook post has been trending for some time... Here's some of her answer...

"Hey everyone!!! Now that I got your attention with this RANDOM ULTRASOUND PHOTO I grabbed from a Google image search, this is just a friendly P.S.A. that people's reproductive and procreative plans and decisions are none of your business. NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. 

Before you ask the young married couple that has been together for seemingly forever when they are finally gonna start a family … before you ask the parents of an only-child toddler when a Little Brother or Little Sister will be in the works … before you ask a single 30-something if/when s/he plans on having children because, you know, clock's ticking … just stop. Please stop. 

You don't know who is struggling with infertility or grieving a miscarriage or dealing with health issues. You don't know who is having relationship problems or is under a lot of stress or the timing just isn't right. You don't know who is on the fence about having kids or having more kids. You don't know who has decided it's not for them right now, or not for them ever. You don't know how your seemingly innocent question might cause someone grief, pain, stress or frustration. 

Sure, for some people those questions may not cause any fraught feelings — but I can tell you, from my own experiences and hearing about many friends' experiences — it more than likely does."

Here are some comments from Mix Facebook Friends:

      • Jeanette Reynolds Finney People should not ask. I have one and people ask me why did you only have one ? This is a very personal question and most people don't realize how sensitive it can be. Some people actually choose not to have children and that's great there are plenty that have them that should not.
      • Alexis Marshall Having gone thru my 6th miscarriage last year, I hate these questions. I usually get the opposite though... I have a 13 year old, and people are like, oh you're so lucky you only have one. Or gee, you must be glad you had kids when you were younger. Since he was 5, I've been wishing for more. Thanks. unsure emoticon

      • Ginelda Lopez-Mtz When the topic of children comes up in conversation and the person I'm speaking to says they don't have any I just take it for what it's worth and leave them alone about it. I don't like to pry into the "why not?" because you can never know if they've had health issues or if it's a sensitive subject that could make them feel bad. I have one son and he's not a baby anymore. The question as to when are we going to try for another didn't bother me, but now that he's older and my 30th birthday is creeping up on me I can honestly say the question on whether or not I'm going to have more children makes me sad because I just don't know if I will or not. I just tell everyone "It just hasn't happened yet" and they usually leave me alone after that.

        Sarah Kathryn I think it's okay to ask "Do you have any kids?" And if the person says no and is reserved and quiet about it then I would leave it at that. Asking if they have plans to is intrusive. That is none of your business. And I can see how that would hurt feelings if asked that.
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Hey Breakfast Foodie Fans!

I"m a big breakfast food fan. If you are too, this could be cool. Plus some '80s & '90s flair is added to the mix.. NICE! 

"The Cereal Killer Café Cookbook will feature recipes that center around the breakfast staple... learn how to make dishes like corn flake chicken, sausage-stuffed Shredded Wheat, and Cocoa Pop brownies. The book will also be rife with "1980s and early 90s pop culture references" and comic-strip illustrations. The Cereal Killer Café Cookbook will be released October 22."
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This is TRUE LOVE!...

Married 73 years, Howard (92) sings to his wife Laura (93) at the Hospice spending those last moments of life together. I'm getting teary eyed just typing this. I needed a tissue about :10 into the video.  Not sure if you'll last longer before a tissue, but have one handy just in case. If you want to see what TRUE LOVE is all about, this is a perfect example. It does exist during a lifetime and even in a few precious moments.  Enjoy the time you have w/ your honey. I hope my honey Ted and I are lucky enough to experience this amount of time together and still be that much In Love w/ each other even too the end. So far so GREAT...

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It's happening on October 7th!

Lady Gaga classed up the Emmy's on Sunday. You'll see how she carries that to the newest American Horror Story: Hotel! It kicks off on Wednesday, October 7th on FX! I'm so looking forward to it! Here's a newer promo to get you ready! There's a love triangle Ms. G will be tangled up in....   


Rammstein used for the promo ear candy. 
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Happy #InternationalDayofPeace

This is something we should strive to have everyday! PEACE!
The International Day Of Peace was declared by resolution 36/37 of the United Nations General Assembly in 1981.  The first observation of the day was in 1982.  For more information, please visit http://www.un.org/en/events/peaceday/
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This headline caught my eye...

Air Pollution Is Responsible For 3.3 Million Deaths Every Year!
If things don't change, the death toll will double.. I got more on the 1Thing Blog here! Carbon footprint is more important than ever. Cutting it down will definitely help Mama Earth.  Walk, Bike carpool more.... 1Thing can be cutting down on the air pollutants which will help everyone and the Earth. This weekend walk, bike, carpool use public transporation more... If everyone does more of this 1 Thing, looks like it will save lives and Mama Earth.  
Turn the unhappy headline into a Happier one!   Enjoy the last weekend of Summer in ATX w/ Mama Earth w/ family & friends!  

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I Got Mine! Your Turn!

It was around 9 years ago, I had my first Mammogram in ATX. Dr. Jukes thought it would be a good idea regardless of the 40 and over age requirement to have a Mammogram to base my future ones to a hopefully healthy one at the time. I was adopted when I was 3 weeks old, and have no knowledge of biological family history when it comes to cancer and other diseases. I was blessed having a healthy first one, and the ones I have had since can be compared to it if there was an issue that pops up.  

Just a few days ago, I went in for another Mammogram. I wasn't able to do video of photos of myself getting it done, but I did get a shot so you can see what's behind the door.  It seems a bit intimidating if it's your very first one, but it can be that way even if you've had a few. Lisa & the folks at  ARA Diagnostic Imaging/ Westlake location are fantastic at letting you know what is going on, and what you will need to do.  They eliminate the stress of having it done.  I won't say it's BIG TIME FUN, but they make it as comfortable as it can be, and make sure you aren't feeling any unnecessary stress.  It's a series of 4 photos that are taken of the breast tissue. 

 The Westlake location doesn't have the 3-D testing machines yet, but they are in line to get one in the future. ARADI do have 2-3 locations w/ that machine.   2 Awesome options to keep up on your health. Early detection is always the best.  Don't put it off if you're 40 and over. Most insurances cover the Mamm test. If not, there are places to turn to for assistance to make sure you're keeping up w/ good health. If you are under 40, but have a history of breast cancer in your family,  or don't know your family history lke me, it's good to have an early Mammogram. Now I'm waiting for the results. 

Get all the Think Pink 411. Mix 94.7 & our sister stations Majic 95.5, 96.3 RnB and Talk 1370AM are going 'Pink'.  Especially through the month of October supporting the Fight against Breast cancer! You'll be able to find out what's happening in the ATX area that's 'Pink'. If you have a Pink event or party planned, let us know so we can get the word out through www.GoPinkATX.com  #GoPinkATX  Here's to Great Pink Health to all!  

Remember, It's not just women who are at risk for Breast cancer. They may have a lower percentage when it comes to getting Breast cancer, men can also get it. So guys don't be quite about it, if you feel something is wrong, please go to your doctor. 

A reminder to everyone... There is only 1 You, so take care of yourself. YOU MATTER! #GoPinkATX
Your family & friends feel the same way. Take care of each other! It's what my honey Ted, Huey & I do for each other. Lots of Love & Care for each other... 
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New Mix Ear Candy Fav of mine...

Have you heard the new Rachel Platten 'Stand By You' yet?  I thought 'Fight Song'  by Rachel was hands down one of the best motivation/positive songs..up there with Kelly Clarkson's 'Stronger'.  Well, here's another from Rachel!  Big Love for it. I noticed Taylor Swift really felt the same way!
TS Instagram:  "Rach killing it with her second single. Check out 'Stand By You', I've had it on repeat all day. 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 @rachelplatten  
I have Big Love for it. Listen to the words... AWESOME!  


Rachel has come a long way. It's Awesome seeing her Star is Rising High!- HR 

Here's Rachel during West of the Fest in 2011
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Where are our single girl gifts!!?!?!

I am so tired of buying baby and wedding gifts for people.
I looked at my credit card statement last night and on average I am spending like $200 a month on presents for first babies…second babies…first marriage…first engagement…first home.
What about my single girl firsts!
First time we actually have a guy call us back after a date!
First time we actually have a guy stick around for a month!
First time we have a guy actually call us on the phone!!!!
These might be the only firsts we ever get to experience!!!
Where are our Wiliams Sanoma biscuit cutters – set of 5 - …that make flaky, perfectly round biscuits also known as one of America's culinary treasures?
Where are our Le Creusset Heritage Stoneware Loaf Pan, Large, Lapis?
Where are our Crate and Barrel Hot Dips Bowl that heats up hot dips easily in the microwave or oven!
We want all these things too!!!
Where is the love!!! What if we never get to have these "society dictated gift worth" firsts? Does that mean we will never get Frozen pops dish towels that help sweeten those summer kitchen chores?
This sucks!!!

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